Meeting with someone who has an unstoppable life makes you think
twice about yours. I meet people like this every day, and I use their
strategies to help all of you with your own lives. The advice I am about
to share is not the sort of advice you may have heard before, but I
have tried each strategy.
What I’ve learned and what you will see is that life can be so much
easier when you simplify things down and take the time to pick up a few
quick tips along the way. As you add more tools to your toolbox, you
become a master of your own trade.
None of you reading this require motivation: what you require is
basic tips and advice that can allow you to become just a little bit
better each day. That said, advice and tips are not enough. You need to
unlock something within you that makes you look and feel unstoppable.
Below are the eight things that I know for sure which will catapult you towards having an unstoppable life:
1. Passion trumps all
If you watch a reality TV show about cooking or singing you will
notice one thing about all the winners; they have this look about them
that pours out of their eyes. Every activity they engage in and every
song they sing, there is something driving them that the other
contestants don’t have.
There is an inner tragedy or an emotional event that is creating a
drive of motivation that the other contestants are lacking. Their reason
for being there is part of a much bigger vision. The winners of these
shows have visualised themselves standing on the stage at the finale.
These contestants believe in themselves even though they have no
reason to do so. They’re the underdogs and the one’s who will keep going
when everybody else doesn’t see the point. They’re the ones that care
about the other contestants and go to bed before everyone else.
So
I ask you, are you one of these contestants in your own life? Do you
believe that your passion is fundamental for everything you achieve? If
you didn’t answer yes then that’s okay; it just means you’re not at that
level yet, and now you have something to strive for.
The truth is, you have to be that contestant, and you have to find a level of passion that is going to outweigh everyone else.
If you don’t, you will just be second best and unfortunately, as hard
as this is to say, no one remembers second best. Second best is just not
good enough.
2. Give 30% of something
Whatever resources you have, you must give at least 30% of them away.
Whether that’s your own time, your own money or even your knowledge,
this is crucial to having an unstoppable life. It’s not the resources
themselves, but the habit of giving that is the message you need to get.
You don’t give stuff away because you want anything in
return, or you want people to think you’re cool, you do it because this
Earth relies on sustainability to regenerate everything that we love. Your act of giving is a way for our human existence to carry on long after you have left this world.
You must find a way to give because it’s in your human nature – it’s
who you are. Giving is what got you here in the first place, and it’s
what will create the generations that supersede you. It’s not about you it’s about something much bigger than that.
I believe you have the power to be a magnet for everything you have
ever wanted. I believe you can be a New York Times Best Selling Author
or an Olympic Champion – but, it doesn’t start with what you must do, it starts with what you must give.
You must inspire people to find their true passion and to find
belief, and their own dreams in what you do. There are so many ways you
can give so find the one that works for you and allows you to give the
most. That’s just another way you can live an unstoppable life.
3. Reframe from one negative thought per day
Your life will start to transform when you experience more positive
thoughts than negative thoughts each day. Moving the scales in favour of
the positive thoughts is challenging. Like any challenge, though, you
have to start small.
When I first started trying to achieve this goal I consistently
failed because I got mad at how many negative thoughts I had per day.
The good news was that at least I was noticing now how many negative
thoughts I was having.
The goal for you is to start by stopping yourself from having or
executing on one negative thought per day. It’s so easy for you to shoot
your mouth off and then think about it or be upset by your actions
later on. Developing self-control is where you need to be at.
So let’s not over complicate this. Aim to catch one negative thought per day
and then do this very easy trick: decide not to take action and focus
on the next thing. If you find this hard initially then try this more
advanced tip: tell yourself that you will act on this negative thought
tomorrow.
It’s the best lie ever because this thought will hold nowhere near as
much power tomorrow. If the thought does still exist even after all of
that, and you still want to take action, then talk with a rational
colleague or friend and tell them what you are going to do.
There’s a good chance they will talk you out of it. Positive thoughts are what have the power to catapult you towards having an unstoppable life. There’s nothing hard about it.
One tip: go for one thought a day and no more otherwise you will do
what I did and consistently lose. Losing hurts and losing will probably
make you give up.
“By taking the power out of your negative thoughts and using procrastination in your favor, you can start to have more positive thoughts”
4. Sacrifice nothing to be you
Set a new standard in your life that no matter what events transpire
and who you spend time with, you will be happy and proud to always be
you. I found in my life that I stopped being me for a while and tried to
be the person I thought everyone else wanted me to be.
The more I became like other people, the less I stood out and the
more boring I became. What’s great about each of us is we are so very
different, yet our human blueprint is the same. When faced with a
decision to be anything but you, you have to take drastic action and
sacrifice everything you have to maintain the luxury of being you.
That’s right; it’s a luxury to be you! Take all the fear about what
you have done and the flaws of your family, and just let it all out.
Tell people your story and don’t be embarrassed by it.
“Your weaknesses are what draw others closer to you. Your story is what is compelling about you nothing else”
5. Celebrate fear
As Joel Brown would say “take your fear and punch it in the face.”
Celebrate every fear you have because fear represents progress. You know
what your fears are and so do I. They are the things you avoid or try
to put off.
Don’t. Celebrate them because they are the inevitable life challenges
that you have to face one day. You cannot catapult your life in the
direction you want without them. Understand them, be passionate about
them, and tell others about them.
6. Freakin’ smile man
We don’t smile enough. That includes me. See, when we smile we create
a positive energy that helps break the pattern of our day and the
things that may have gone against us. Unless you start giving off good
vibes to other people, it’s going to be very hard to master your life.
“You need other people to succeed at your mission, and you’ll need some fishing line to reel these people in. Smiling is something we can all do to attract the soldiers we need for our battle”
7. Be happy when others succeed
Jealousy is pathetic and you know it is – so do I. What I
know for sure is that you have to celebrate when others succeed. If you
do this enough, you will find that these successful celebrators will
want you around more, and they may even give you reasons to celebrate
yourself.
The act of celebrating helps you see the world in a different way,
and while you are technically giving a piece of yourself to that moment
of celebration, you are in a way, aligning yourself with the same path
that the victor is on.
There is nothing I want more for everyone reading this than to enjoy
celebrating other people’s victories. Hell, do a victory dance too while
you’re at it. Why not? What have you got to lose pal?
8. Set up the game so you can win
Life is a game, and you create the rules. So given the power you
have, why not make the rules so easy that you can always win? Let me
demonstrate what I mean by this. I created a habit that said I can only
be happy if I meditate using an app every single day for twenty minutes.
Guess what? I failed man, badly. The reason is that I tried to go
from nothing to something because I am the sort of person that wants
massive results quickly. So, what happened was I was not able to
maintain the habit and had extended periods of time where I did zero
meditation.
The way I solved the issue is I changed the rules of the game. I made
the new rule that I have to meditate for five minutes a day no matter
what and anything more is a bonus. The result, I am now meditating again
every day.
This very clear example should demonstrate to you that you have to start small and make a goal that is achievable.
Trying to go too fast can often be a curse. What I know for sure is
that you can setup the rules of any game (goal) in your life to be
smaller.
My advice to you would be to make brand new goals much smaller. If
you aim to write 2000 words per week, change it to 200 words. If you aim
to post on social media every day, then make it once a week. If you aim
to lose 100kgs, make it 1kg.
The reason why this strategy will help you master your life is that
once you achieve just a small bit of success, you feel good. When you
feel good, it becomes like a drug that you want more of. Smaller,
bite-sized challenges create intrinsic motivation without you even
trying.
Next time you’re trying to achieve something make the start of the
goal so easy that even an idiot can win the game. The rest of what is
required to win the game will take care of itself.
